The Ultimate Christmas party Rules

The ULTIMATE Christmas party rules by Debrett’s: DON’T call in sick the  morning after and don’t dress like Bridget Jones, but DO work the room

  • 54% of us  have made an excuse to avoid the office Christmas party
  • 1 in 10  admit to calling in sick following their work Christmas party
  • More than 1  in 5 have mis-read the dress code in the style of Bridget  Jones
  • 14 % of us  fear mishaps under the mistletoe, while 17% worry we will make inappropriate  remarks

By Katy Winter, Daily Mail. 13.11.12

The office Christmas party is one of the  highlights of the professional social calendar and a staple of the festive  season.

But it seems this annual office blowout can  be as daunting as it is fun for Britons, with over half confessing they avoid  the festivities completely for fear of committing a faux pas in front of their  colleagues.

Small talk trepidation and dance floor dread  means many of us will shun the champagne for the sofa in a bid to avoid festive  fun altogether, with women more likely to stay away than men.

DON'T hit the bar with a vengeance: No one wants to be the casualty everyone is talking about (and sniggering at) the next day

DON’T hit the bar with a vengeance: No one wants to be  the casualty everyone is talking about (and sniggering at) the next day

A new survey has revealed that more than one  in five (22 per cent) of office workers admitted to their very own Bridget Jones  moment after misreading the dress code during the party season.

Drinking too much is the biggest fear among a  fifth surveyed, with alcohol-fuelled embarrassment a particular panic for those  in the North West (27 per cent) and London (28 per cent).

 A not-so-subtle one in ten admit to having  called in sick following the work Christmas party with Londoners being the most  likely to pull a ‘sicky’ (22 per cent) compared to just 5 per cent of those  angels in the South West.

Making inappropriate remarks makes nearly one  in five nervous (17 per cent), while mishaps under the mistletoe puts the fear  into one in seven (14 per cent), and one in ten admit to worrying about setting  tongues wagging with dubious dance moves.

DON'T let bonhomie turn into sleaze and keep goodnight kisses innocent

DON’T let bonhomie turn into sleaze and keep goodnight  kisses innocent.

However this year a firm set of ‘Dos’ and ‘Don’ts’ is available for the less socially skilled amongst us to guide professionals effortlessly through the networking nightmare that can ensue when career, colleagues, alcohol and bad music are mixed.

The guide has been written by Debrett’s the  authority on modern manners and etiquette, and includes advice on maximizing  networking opportunities and top tips on what to avoid such as letting ‘bonhomie  turn into sleaze and keep goodnight kisses innocent.

Jo Bryant, etiquette advisor for  Debrett’s,  said: ‘Although festive celebrations can seem intimidating,  the office party is  the perfect place to impress.

‘There is the opportunity to talk to those  hard-to-reach people, as well as  socialise with colleagues outside of the  confines of the office.

‘Join in the camaraderie and indulge in the  Christmas spirit, but know when to  draw the line. It is important to maintain  your professional gloss at  all times.’

Debrett’s golden ‘Dos’ for the  Christmas bash

1. Do make an effort to look smart and  well-groomed, and ensure you adhere to the dress codes, if specified.

2. Do circulate and socialise, but keep it  upbeat and general. Ask about families, children and holidays.

3. Do make the most of the opportunity to  network with your colleagues and clients. Use small talk as a pleasurable way of  making contact and cementing relationships.

4. Do ensure that you’re democratic in your  mixing: this isn’t the place to schmooze your bosses and ignore your  team.

5. Do your best to keep it upbeat and  convivial – this isn’t the time of year to skulk moodily in corners and leave  early…

Debrett’s office party  ‘Don’ts’

1. Don’t gossip, spread rumours or confess  your sins.

2. Don’t let bonhomie turn into sleaze and  keep goodnight kisses innocent.

3. Don’t hit the bar with a vengeance and  remember to eat well and alternate drinks with water. Have fun and a few  glasses, but don’t be the casualty everyone is talking about (and sniggering at)  the next day.

4. Don’t outstay your welcome. If you feel  the drink is taking its toll, heed the warning signs and hail a taxi before any  late-night lasciviousness or boisterousness comes back to haunt you.

5. Don’t crawl in hungover and late (or  worse, pulling a sickie) the following day. It’s unforgivably  unprofessional.

DO work the room: Keep conversation topics light and cheerful and be democratic in your mixing

DO work the room: Keep conversation topics light and  cheerful and be democratic in your mixing

Founded in 1769 Debrett’s has been the  renowned expert in British etiquette and nobility for centuries

Debrett’s Peerage & Baronetage, a book  which includes a short history of the family of each titleholder in Britain,  including the Royals, is still published today alongside numerous etiquette  guides including the A-Z of Modern Manners, the Debrett’s Wedding Guide and even  Debrett’s Correct Form in the Middle East.



Close Menu